This is a poem I wrote so anyone who feels like reading it please do and let me know what you think of it...I'm sure the person who I wrote this about knows exactly who he is so no need to put a dedication at the bottom.

Night after night I feel trapped
My mind in a body of corruption
A soul yearning for escape,
Freedom of the soul?

You told me you loved me,
but you left me, you beast.
All the promises and lies cutting
like the knife you tell me not to use.

You told me you want me,
Alas, it was all a lie, you beast!
You're not worth a moment of my time,
A second in my wishfully shorter life!

Like a Commandant at Bergen you left me,
to rot and die,
going home to your family, forgetting it all.
Knowing the gas is being relesed around me.

Only to return the next day,
Seeing my limp cold body lying there.
Rolling it over, taking it to burn,
the fumes of man's hate surrounding you.

For you to only move on to your next victim,
where again you'll show how much...
How much of a commandant you are,
Leaving me, forgetting me like you did.

I'm scared, I'm trapped, no on to turn to,
No on to help me, my soul yearning for freedom.
Forever repeating the same words,
The desire to strike out, but at whom?

Myself? You? The world?
Or all three?
Why did you do it,
You bastard...you bastard.

Johnnes Paulus II Santo Subito!

Coping with Borderline Personality Disorder

A person with BPD may be in considerable emotional distress at times and it is difficult to know how to support someone close to you in these circumstances. It is not only important to have a clear understanding of what you can do to help the person concerned but also how you can safe guard your own well-being. Therefore, this leaflet aims to provide some guidelines both on how to help support the person with BPD and the sort of things you can do to look after yourself as well.

What Can I Do To Help Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder?
It is important the family and friends of a person with BPD are familiar with the symptoms of the disorder. Those who do not have a good understanding of the disorder may just see a person with BPD as manipulative or attention seeking. Therefore it is crucial that close friends and family can recognize and accept the difficult thoughts and feelings that are experienced by a person with BPD.

Stormy relationships, fears of being alone or rejected and a tendency to see others as either all good or all bad are common in BPD. It is therefore not surprising that maintaining a positive relationship is difficult for both parties. A person with BPD due to fears of being alone is often very demanding upon the time of their friends and family. For example, as a partner of someone with BPD you may find that they become very angry and distressed at times at times you are going out and they will be alone. A person with BPD may think that by wanting to spend time with friends you are rejecting them. In this kind of situation it is usually helpful if you can try to empathise with how the person feels instead of arguing.

If you are employed you may receive many phone calls from the person with BPD. In this case, it can be helpful to sit down with the person and mutually agree times for them to contact you or for you to contact them. You may also want to agree a set limit to the number of phone calls each day.

As mentioned previously, people with BPD have a tendency to see people as either all good (idealized) or all bad (devalued). It is important to understand this and try not to take it personally if one moment you are seen as the perfect partner or friend and the next you are despised. These feelings tend to fluctuate rapid so try to just let it pass and don’t take it to heart if you are being judged harshly.

People with BPD usually have problems with their self-esteem. Therefore, although it is hard to see someone in a positive way all the time it is important to try not to say things that will further undermine the person’s fragile sense of esteem. Due to this arguments can be particularly difficult because we all say things in the heat of the moment to hurt the other person. Accordingly, if any argument occurs and you feel your friend or partner with BPD is behaving unreasonably, try to talk in terms of finding their behaviour unacceptable and NOT the person themselves unacceptable.


How to Look after yourself while supporting a person with BPD

First, don’t get isolated. You are not the only person to be trying to relate to someone with a BPD diagnosis, and there are support resources out there.

Second, work for a balance of communication. Don’t be blaming for all the difficulties, (you can always leave, so if you stay, then stay to work), and don’t accept all the blame, either, (BPD people can feel really bad about themselves, and pass the pain onto someone else).

Third, sort yourself out. It is very common for partners and family of BPD people to seek out therapy for themselves. This is understandable and not to be embarrassed about, or avoided. You’re going to need support, and you’re going to learn a lot about what makes you tick, in a relationship with a BPD sufferer, so don’t be afraid to look for help, professional or otherwise.

Fourth, work very hard at being honest.

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