This was 'stolen' from a friends myspace site but I think it is something all girls need to be able to read and all decent guys should pass on, you can never know to much when it comes to self defense.

Sunday, October 15, 2006

Some good info for girls to know
Category: Life


This is something that girls should read

ALL WOMEN PLEASE READ


A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed
on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail,
bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are
also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are
not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look
for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching
through their purse or doing other activities while walking because
they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning,
between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place wome n are abducted from/attacked is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have
to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance,
in their hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince
these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them! in the face and ask them a question,
like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it
is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a
target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that
she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yel! l I
HAVE PEPPER Spray and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but
you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a
class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy
who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the
skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.

Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand
it; it hurts.

14) ! After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know
from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's
parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the
guy and make him want to hurt y

What i am going to write here will not make me a popular person, but its my blog and its my view so bare with me or go somewhere else.

"justice for all" has always been a phrase i have found to be bullshit but recent events have made that lie all the more real, a young girl gets raped at knife point, her attacker is caught it is his second offence and in court he is given three years SUSSPENDED SENTENCE! WTF? in other words the two months he spent in jail waiting to be sentenced is 'enough punishment' then a young guy does something stupid, painfully stupid infact and injures a child, there was no malice or forethought to his actions, (if there was he would not have done it), because of this one incident they claim he is a monster and sentence him to EIGHT MONTHS! That is criminal. theives and repeat offenders get off scotfree and he gets eight months? those of you who have seen the news will know how the media have painted him as a hard bitten criminal who showed no remorse etc etc but he is a kid he cant believe how stupid he was, he is still trying to come to terms with the fact he indangered the little girls life, those who know sam know that he is one of the good guys, those who know sam know that he would never intentionally hurt anyone. those who know sam know how great a miscarridge of justice this is, those who dont think that he deserves everything he got, and that it serves him right, there is always more to the story then you hear from the media, this time though what the media showed was a sadistic vicious premeditated attack on a child specifically to cause harm and what really happened was a young guy with too little experience and not enough forethought causing harm to a child he cares deeply for and being unduely punnished for it. People who kill children get less then he did and that just shows the stupidity of our "laws" it saddens me, it really does.

"Love" a disaster? Why do i say that love is a disaster? because it is something you can try to plan for, you can try to avoid, but in the end it will get you and when it does everything you thought you had means nothing, it all falls apart and the realisation that your not in control hits you hard, it is both devastating and liberating, terrifying and reasuring, it is totally confusing and beautifully simple, it is everything you'll never know but you'll always want. But the trouble with love is that when you want it, when you try to find love it is lost to you, when you don't want it; it finds you, when your hate it; it loves you, when you hurt it; it heals you. Love DOES NOT follow any of the worlds preconceived ideas of colour, creed, race or religion, it does not recognise the differences between social classes and knows nothing of following a timetable. it has no etiqute no political correctness, it is an entity in itself and as such has a mind of its own, we can have a set ideal in our heads as to who our "perfect" partner would be like their looks, the kind of person they are etc but love may have other ideas, my "ideal woman" has changed alot over the years but somethings that still remain are,,,,, inteligence - she needs to be able to think for herself, i hate it when i meet a girl really like her for her opinions then when you ask her about something after you start going out she agrees with everything you say because she "doesnt want to argue" that does my head in, i like intelectual debate i love being passionate about my point of veiw and respecting another persons opinion, i dont mind if people genuinely agree with me but when they just agree to keep the peice that gets up my nose ESPECIALLY in a girlfriend, i am atracted to people that hold their own who challenge my views and make me have to really back up my beliefs, by the same token though i hate people who argue just to make a point, or just have to always take the opposite view, but back to topic, some other things that still remain part of the montage of qualities i want in my "ideal girl" are wit (she has to have inteligent wit), a sence of humour (she needs to know how to laugh at life), passion (she needs to be passionate about something in her life) and above all compassion (she needs to care). Many people will say wit and humour are the same thing, they are not. Least not in my book, i have a medium to low wit (as appossed to a half wit) i find low brow things funny, but i also can find some high brow things funny, when it comes to humour on the other hand i have a very earthy worldly humour (due to living all over the place i guess i have adopted different humours) i find life to be the funnyest thing in the world and often find myself laughing at strange things, other people dont find life funny at all and although i have friends like this i cant understand where they are coming from sometimes, but unlike some of my frinds who would rather cut contact with them i still continue to be frinds with them because they are inteligent people and we learn from each other. but i have got way off topic here, love is not something you can measure, it is not something you can do an autopsey on, the minute you do that its dead. Love like life is something that needs to be experienced first hand, no two lives and no two loves are ever the same so dont compare yours to someone elses or your current love to your ex, both spell disaster for a relationship, just let things flow as they flow, set your bounderies, tell your girlfriend/boyfriend where you stand on issues and NEVER EVER comprimise your ideals for anyone. If they cannot respect you for who you are they aren't the person for you, if your worried about your relationship take a month off (NOT to see other people but to) evaluate your where it is you stand, ask yourself "is this where i want to be right now?" and if the answer is no? Well, you have your answer, if the answer is "I dont know" then it might b